Dear Past, I Hope You’re Happy Behind Me…

Today was one of those days when the intricacies of life were not without their unique shades of irony, causing things to feel slightly off kilter, yet on track at the same time. If that is even possible. Well, it must be possible, because that was my day in a nutshell.

Without going into a lot of detail, let’s just say that for a few moments that major nasal/sinus congestion that I have been battling for years, eased up a little bit, seemingly out of the blue. My work day was practically a breeze, and it actually looks as though I will be making it to bed at a decent time tonight. Yes! Thank You, Lord!

Now, I can imagine that so far that sense of irony that I was alluding to has yet to become evident to you. That’s understandable, but stick with me for just a little bit longer. I promise that it’s going to show up. Right. Now.

You see, the irony made its appearance in the form of a person from my past whose presence mysteriously surfaced today after a lengthy period of no contact. This person, who once occupied a very special place in my life, is very much now a part of my past.

But what happens when your past attempts to do a swan dive smack dab in the middle of your present? Now depending on where we are at with that wonderful friend of ours named “closure,” our answer to that question is likely to vary.

And, no, I am not here to provide an answer – such an answer requires individualized considerations, which can and should be very personal. I am here, however, to lend a pinch of encouragement. And in that vein, I encourage us all to remember that just because the past comes knocking on our present door, that does not mean that we have to open it. We can. But we don’t have to…the choice is ours.

If we decide that our past has matured enough to make it a right fit for our present, then so be it, let’s extend that hand. But if we decide that our past continues to be less than right for us, then may we confidently remind our past that it is just that…the past, and keep it moving. Even this time of year when joy, busyness, and chaos somehow mingle together and abound. After all, it is never the wrong time to look out for and protect one’s own well-being. Joy to the world, my dears! #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #155

Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that we should never allow ourselves to be overly concerned with what other people think about us. The truth of the matter is that people will think whatever they choose to think. That’s just the way that it is. And sometimes what they think will be right on point with the truth, and sometimes it will not.

The good news is that we do not have to allow ourselves to be concerned with that. Yes, the majority of us probably would prefer that other people think highly of us. And there really isn’t anything wrong with that. However, we cannot control what others think of us, nor should we want to do so. What others think is their business, not ours. And that’s just the way that I like it 🙂 #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #138

10WaysToTakeChargeOfDepression.01_640x480Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that sometimes it is only after spending time with someone that we realize why that person was brought into our life. There are times when we receive a sense immediately (whether right at the moment of the first encounter or shortly thereafter) of why someone was brought into our life – maybe that person is the new business partner that we have been hoping for, the new friend that we have been in need of, or even the new contact that will lead us to the opportunity for which we have been waiting.

And there are other times when it is only after spending time with someone that we are truly able to gain a sense of why that person is in our life, be it through long conversations, participation in activities that address shared interests, or supporting each other via other endeavors. The point is that sometimes we may not experience initial sensations that indicate why a person is in our lives and whether or not that person’s presence is a good thing.

So, we should take heart to remember this when we find out later on in life that someone in our life mistreated us, betrayed us, or made our life more challenging in some other way. And when we find ourselves contemplating how it could be that we did not pick up on this or that earlier on, may the realization that sometimes it takes spending time with a person in order for us to become aware of why that person is in our life to help us take it a little easy on ourselves as we learn from the experiences. After all, that process of learning and gaining wisdom is the point of it all anyway, right? #lovebythedrop