We Want, and then We Want

You know, it’s funny that it is our natural, human inclination to focus with laserlike precision on the very things that we want but don’t have, believe we deserve but have yet to grasp, seek with fervor only to be left empty handed.

When we are not in a relationship it seems as though everywhere we turn we see couples, living, breathing advertisements and previews of that elusive situation in which we imagine ourselves to one day be. We crave it, long for it, and allow our desire for it to fill us to near expulsion of our sanity.

When we are in a relationship it seems as though we can never find enough “me time,” space, or whatever convenient descriptor that we think to use to indicate our need for separation, even in a temporary and healthy sense.

We want what we don’t have, and just like that we elevate what we don’t have to a greater level of importance and value than the treasure for which we once fought, sacrificed, and prayed so hard to possess. We shift our focus, and in so doing we relinquish our peace, choosing instead to embrace a false sense of lack. 

That’s right. False. Why false? Because the reality is that the sense of lack that we experience is one of perspective rather than a tangible, reality in which we are immersed. It’s a shift in perspective. Just. Like. That.

The good thing about a shift in perspective, though, is that we can shift it back. Now, because we are all individuals that process of shifting our perspective back will look different, and for some it may be easier done than it is for others. But for each and every one of us it always begins with a choice, an active decision to face the reality of the situation, decide what we truly want and value, and then move in that direction. The choice is ours. May we choose well. #lovebythedrop

A Little Encouragement 

Lately I have sensed that a lot of people are going through some things – big things, small things, and maybe things that are so uncertain that it’s not even clear how big or small they actually are. 

None of us is immune to experiencing the challenges of life, and none of us has devised a way to completely avoid or eradicate them. And, in part, that is one of the many things that connects us all – our sheer inability to avoid the things that we wish to avoid the most.

So, I just wanted to encourage all of us who are going through something, no matter the size, depth, and width of that something, to keep going. To give to God what is only meant for Him to shoulder. To handle only what we are meant to handle. To keep putting one foot in front of the other and to determine to see the journey all the way through to the end, no matter what.

And may we receive hugs when we need hugs, a kind word when a kind word is needed, and the time to breathe when when we wonder if the next breath will come. 

Be encouraged and know that challenges are temporary. This too shall pass. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #141

StubbornToday’s insight journey led me to the idea that stubbornness should not be confused with determination. Some of us appear to have stubbornness running through our veins, so much so that it may even be written across our hearts. Others of us simply have momentary encounters with stubbornness as we refuse to allow it to dwell in our midst for very long. Yet, whatever the case may be, none of us are strangers to stubbornness. Some of us just court it more closely than others.

Since we all have some sort of familiarity with stubbornness, we all need to be aware of the fact that stubbornness occasionally attempts to masquerade around under the guise of determination, though try as hard as it may, it is never quite that convincing in the long run. Sure, stubbornness can in some instances resemble determination – both require a firm stance, focused effort, and an unrelenting pursuit of something. However, stubbornness usually is birthed out of a dedication to selfishness, whereas determination traditionally stems from a more neutral base.

So, when faced with a choice between following the path of stubbornness or determination, hopefully we will forego the easy slide into the way of stubbornness, and instead navigate the road less traveled, the way of determination. See you along the way 🙂 #lovebythedrop