Dear Past, I Hope You’re Happy Behind Me…

Today was one of those days when the intricacies of life were not without their unique shades of irony, causing things to feel slightly off kilter, yet on track at the same time. If that is even possible. Well, it must be possible, because that was my day in a nutshell.

Without going into a lot of detail, let’s just say that for a few moments that major nasal/sinus congestion that I have been battling for years, eased up a little bit, seemingly out of the blue. My work day was practically a breeze, and it actually looks as though I will be making it to bed at a decent time tonight. Yes! Thank You, Lord!

Now, I can imagine that so far that sense of irony that I was alluding to has yet to become evident to you. That’s understandable, but stick with me for just a little bit longer. I promise that it’s going to show up. Right. Now.

You see, the irony made its appearance in the form of a person from my past whose presence mysteriously surfaced today after a lengthy period of no contact. This person, who once occupied a very special place in my life, is very much now a part of my past.

But what happens when your past attempts to do a swan dive smack dab in the middle of your present? Now depending on where we are at with that wonderful friend of ours named “closure,” our answer to that question is likely to vary.

And, no, I am not here to provide an answer – such an answer requires individualized considerations, which can and should be very personal. I am here, however, to lend a pinch of encouragement. And in that vein, I encourage us all to remember that just because the past comes knocking on our present door, that does not mean that we have to open it. We can. But we don’t have to…the choice is ours.

If we decide that our past has matured enough to make it a right fit for our present, then so be it, let’s extend that hand. But if we decide that our past continues to be less than right for us, then may we confidently remind our past that it is just that…the past, and keep it moving. Even this time of year when joy, busyness, and chaos somehow mingle together and abound. After all, it is never the wrong time to look out for and protect one’s own well-being. Joy to the world, my dears! #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #82


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that life really is much easier when we learn from the mistakes that others have made rather than constantly insisting on making our own. While growing up I heard adults say things like “learn from my mistakes” and “pay attention so that you can live a life that is better than mine.” And though I realized that those adults had my best interest at heart, it was not until I became an adult and experienced some heavy duty circumstances of my own that I truly came to appreciate those statements. And after becoming an adult and finding myself well on my way to becoming a mature young lady, I reached the understanding that I could still learn a number of things in life without having to experience everything directly – I did not have to enter into a certain type of dating relationship to learn the lessons that can come out of that, just as I did not have to work for a certain type of boss in order to glean the lessons that can come from that.

Now, I will not say that I have always made the best use of this gem of a method, but the times that I have put it into practice have proved to be very beneficial. And, yes, there are some things that we simply will not grab ahold of until we experience them for ourselves. Unfortunately, that is just how we tend to operate at times as human beings – not because we cannot help it, but because we tend to be a little stubborn. But if we will allow ourselves to truly grasp and implement this concept of learning from the mistakes of others, we really can live better quality lives than we ever thought possible. #lovebythedrop

There is Always a Way


Sometimes life charges at us with full force, whereas other times it seems to creep up on us under the guise of affecting a stealth attack. Sometimes we are ready – prepared for just about any outcome, and other times we seem to run for the nearest corner hoping that whatever is coming our way will miraculously pass us by. Sometimes we are spared a direct blow, and other times we are pummeled by the gale force winds of relentless circumstance. Sometimes we easily conquer the situation at hand, whereas other times we find ourselves hanging on for dear life.

And though the details of each circumstance may be different, there are at least two truths that exist in every situation that we face: we are still who we are – individuals who have survived numerous bouts with the unexpected, the life-changing, the overwhelming, and the stress-inducing moments of life – and there is a way. In fact, there is always a way – a way out of, a way through, a way beyond every circumstance. There is always a way.

Unfortunately, because of the challenges and disappointments that occasionally permeate life we temporarily forget this truth. We become so focused on our circumstances that we fail to see the open door that waits for us a few mere feet ahead. We allow the magnitude of our days, hours, minutes, and seconds to distract us from the hope that is innately hours, a hope that is ever-present. We allow ourselves to lose sight of that which has carried us through every troubling situation, and will most certainly carry us through future circumstances that may surface, whether expected or not.

And what is this hope, this way to which I am referring? For me, it is my faith, a constant reminder to me that I am not in this life by myself, that I am not alone and without recourse. And it is a constant reminder to me that no matter what comes my way, regardless of whether I brought it on myself through action or inaction, or it made an appearance through no fault of my own, there is always a way. And when there is a way, a true and viable way, there can be no valid excuse for giving up. #lovebythedrop