We Want, and then We Want

You know, it’s funny that it is our natural, human inclination to focus with laserlike precision on the very things that we want but don’t have, believe we deserve but have yet to grasp, seek with fervor only to be left empty handed.

When we are not in a relationship it seems as though everywhere we turn we see couples, living, breathing advertisements and previews of that elusive situation in which we imagine ourselves to one day be. We crave it, long for it, and allow our desire for it to fill us to near expulsion of our sanity.

When we are in a relationship it seems as though we can never find enough “me time,” space, or whatever convenient descriptor that we think to use to indicate our need for separation, even in a temporary and healthy sense.

We want what we don’t have, and just like that we elevate what we don’t have to a greater level of importance and value than the treasure for which we once fought, sacrificed, and prayed so hard to possess. We shift our focus, and in so doing we relinquish our peace, choosing instead to embrace a false sense of lack. 

That’s right. False. Why false? Because the reality is that the sense of lack that we experience is one of perspective rather than a tangible, reality in which we are immersed. It’s a shift in perspective. Just. Like. That.

The good thing about a shift in perspective, though, is that we can shift it back. Now, because we are all individuals that process of shifting our perspective back will look different, and for some it may be easier done than it is for others. But for each and every one of us it always begins with a choice, an active decision to face the reality of the situation, decide what we truly want and value, and then move in that direction. The choice is ours. May we choose well. #lovebythedrop

It’s Great to Be Back!

I apologize for the fact that it has been a while since I posted any new entries on this blog, as well as for the fact that I halted the most recent project that I had been working on, 365 Days of Insight, without notice. To state that the past few months have been a challenge would be an understatement. Yet, even in my absence you all were on my mind.  With that said, I am glad to finally be returning to writing and to this blog, both of which are very dear to my heart. Thank you for your continued support. Let’s resume this wonderful ride that we call Love by the Drop. Be blessed.

Today’s Gem of Insight #3


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that when it’s time to move on, it’s time to move on. Sometimes we as human beings can find ourselves so overcome with emotion, stress, and circumstances that we overlook something that otherwise might be rather obvious – the fact that it is time to move on.

At other times, we are acutely aware of the fact that it is time to move on, but for various reasons we may not allow ourselves to accept that truth.

In the past, I have found myself knee-deep in both scenarios, neither of which was a joy to navigate. Yet, thankfully, whether as a result of action taken on my part or thoughtful consideration and counsel provided to me by others, I came to the realization that moving on was not only a good idea, but was an absolute necessity.

And through my experiences I have learned that no matter what the case may be, when it’s time to move on, it’s truly time to move on. And when we receive even the slightest inkling that moving on is appropriate for us we need to acknowledge that truth and take the necessary action without unnecessary delay. It may be a challenge to do, and we may have to deal with some substantial emotion and concerns in the process, but in the long run we will realize that it was completely worth it. #lovebythedrop