We Want, and then We Want

You know, it’s funny that it is our natural, human inclination to focus with laserlike precision on the very things that we want but don’t have, believe we deserve but have yet to grasp, seek with fervor only to be left empty handed.

When we are not in a relationship it seems as though everywhere we turn we see couples, living, breathing advertisements and previews of that elusive situation in which we imagine ourselves to one day be. We crave it, long for it, and allow our desire for it to fill us to near expulsion of our sanity.

When we are in a relationship it seems as though we can never find enough “me time,” space, or whatever convenient descriptor that we think to use to indicate our need for separation, even in a temporary and healthy sense.

We want what we don’t have, and just like that we elevate what we don’t have to a greater level of importance and value than the treasure for which we once fought, sacrificed, and prayed so hard to possess. We shift our focus, and in so doing we relinquish our peace, choosing instead to embrace a false sense of lack. 

That’s right. False. Why false? Because the reality is that the sense of lack that we experience is one of perspective rather than a tangible, reality in which we are immersed. It’s a shift in perspective. Just. Like. That.

The good thing about a shift in perspective, though, is that we can shift it back. Now, because we are all individuals that process of shifting our perspective back will look different, and for some it may be easier done than it is for others. But for each and every one of us it always begins with a choice, an active decision to face the reality of the situation, decide what we truly want and value, and then move in that direction. The choice is ours. May we choose well. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #147


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that there come times in life when we simply have to grow up. We reach crossroads in our lives that present us with the choice to either do things differently and grow up or to continue with our current course of action and experience stunted growth.

The decision to grow is usually accompanied by challenging circumstances – the need to pardon the wrongs of ourselves and others, to make a drastic move, or even to stop doing whatever it is that we are doing temporarily in order to take stock of the circumstances – but taking that leap and allowing our faith to catch and carry us will take us much further than continuing with the status quo ever will.

So, the next time that an opportunity to grow comes our way, hopefully we will decide to court that opportunity and keep an open mind while it shows us exactly what we are made of and what we have the potential to become. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #133

DSC_0390_Iván_Melenchón_Serrano_MorgueFileToday’s insight journey led me to the idea that sometimes it is more important to expand our comfort zone rather than step outside of it. It is common to hear people encouraging others to step outside of their comfort zone in an effort to convince them to try new things, meet new people, and open themselves up to new experiences, and that is to be commended. However, oftentimes, those individuals who are convinced to step outside of their comfort zone after a period of time simply end up re-entering their comfort zone and continuing on with their lives as before.

Yet, can you imagine what life would be like if those same individuals were to expand their comfort zone, whether slightly or drastically, and then commit to maintaining that expansion? Consider the new encounters, experiences, and opportunities that they might have, encounters, experiences, and opportunities that they would not likely have come to know had they not taken that leap and expanded their zone of familiarity.

Though expanding one’s comfort zone can be a challenge, especially if the individual is not accustomed to doing so, the quality that such an act will add to that individual’s life will more than make up for the effort that has been invested. In short, nothing ventured, nothing gained, and in this case, the gain is more than worth the venture. #lovebythedrop