We Want, and then We Want

You know, it’s funny that it is our natural, human inclination to focus with laserlike precision on the very things that we want but don’t have, believe we deserve but have yet to grasp, seek with fervor only to be left empty handed.

When we are not in a relationship it seems as though everywhere we turn we see couples, living, breathing advertisements and previews of that elusive situation in which we imagine ourselves to one day be. We crave it, long for it, and allow our desire for it to fill us to near expulsion of our sanity.

When we are in a relationship it seems as though we can never find enough “me time,” space, or whatever convenient descriptor that we think to use to indicate our need for separation, even in a temporary and healthy sense.

We want what we don’t have, and just like that we elevate what we don’t have to a greater level of importance and value than the treasure for which we once fought, sacrificed, and prayed so hard to possess. We shift our focus, and in so doing we relinquish our peace, choosing instead to embrace a false sense of lack. 

That’s right. False. Why false? Because the reality is that the sense of lack that we experience is one of perspective rather than a tangible, reality in which we are immersed. It’s a shift in perspective. Just. Like. That.

The good thing about a shift in perspective, though, is that we can shift it back. Now, because we are all individuals that process of shifting our perspective back will look different, and for some it may be easier done than it is for others. But for each and every one of us it always begins with a choice, an active decision to face the reality of the situation, decide what we truly want and value, and then move in that direction. The choice is ours. May we choose well. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #64


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that sometimes things really do not have to be all that complicated. Certainly, we will all face complicated situations (and people) in our lives. That is a given. Yet, some of the complicated situations that we find ourselves wrestling with only become complicated because of the decisions that we make.

If you are anything like me, you probably do not have a preference for complicated situations. In fact, the simpler that many situations can be, the better. So, with that in mind it may be wise for us to evaluate the ways that we approach and react to situations; that way we have a better chance of avoiding overcomplicating the situations that we encounter in life. After all, life is certainly not short on complicated situations, so our decision to not add to those complicated situations will certainly not deprive us of challenges in any way. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #63


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that not every good opportunity is the right opportunity. Most of us are able to distinguish between things that are good and things that are bad. We tend to make that qualification based on our perception of the qualities that things possess as well as whether or not those qualities appeal to us. Those things with qualities that we like we tend to classify as good. And those things with qualities that we do not like we tend to classify as bad. And my guess is that, for the most part, that usually works for us.

But what happens when we encounter an opportunity that we would typically classify as a good one, but that particular opportunity is just simply not right for us? I think that this is a situation that, unfortunately, trips us up more often than not. We seem to think that because an opportunity is a good one it is one that we should automatically pursue, despite the fact that there usually exist indications that the particular opportunity that we are considering is wrong for us.

My dears, just because an opportunity is classified as a good one does not mean that it is right for us. We need to take the time to evaluate all opportunities that come our way and determine their appropriateness as it relates to our lives. Because even a good opportunity can take us down the wrong path if it is not a right opportunity for us. And pursuing such an opportunity can lead to unnecessary heartache, stress, and ultimately a delay in accomplishing the things that we are meant to accomplish.

So, when opportunities come our way, it is my prayer that we take that much needed extra time to evaluate whether those opportunities are good and whether they are appropriate for us. Doing so is a sign that we value the importance of making wise decisions, which is ultimately a sign of maturity, something that is essential to have if we are going to live the best lives that we can possibly live. Be blessed! #lovebythedrop