We Want, and then We Want

You know, it’s funny that it is our natural, human inclination to focus with laserlike precision on the very things that we want but don’t have, believe we deserve but have yet to grasp, seek with fervor only to be left empty handed.

When we are not in a relationship it seems as though everywhere we turn we see couples, living, breathing advertisements and previews of that elusive situation in which we imagine ourselves to one day be. We crave it, long for it, and allow our desire for it to fill us to near expulsion of our sanity.

When we are in a relationship it seems as though we can never find enough “me time,” space, or whatever convenient descriptor that we think to use to indicate our need for separation, even in a temporary and healthy sense.

We want what we don’t have, and just like that we elevate what we don’t have to a greater level of importance and value than the treasure for which we once fought, sacrificed, and prayed so hard to possess. We shift our focus, and in so doing we relinquish our peace, choosing instead to embrace a false sense of lack. 

That’s right. False. Why false? Because the reality is that the sense of lack that we experience is one of perspective rather than a tangible, reality in which we are immersed. It’s a shift in perspective. Just. Like. That.

The good thing about a shift in perspective, though, is that we can shift it back. Now, because we are all individuals that process of shifting our perspective back will look different, and for some it may be easier done than it is for others. But for each and every one of us it always begins with a choice, an active decision to face the reality of the situation, decide what we truly want and value, and then move in that direction. The choice is ours. May we choose well. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #156

Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that no matter how much we fight it, we all age. I remember thinking, as a teenager, that it would be a long time before I started to keenly note the aging process. I was young, spry, and able to do just about anything that I wanted to do physically without much effort. And at a time when I had yet to become acquainted with the stress of earning a living and tackling many of the adventurous tasks associated with adulthood, life was…easy.

Yet, I distinctly remember taking note of a few surprising things that didn’t occur until right around my thirtieth birthday (which wasn’t all that long ago, but that’s neither here nor there) – let’s just say that appearance-related changes occurred that I had not experienced before, and seemingly overnight. Though I was caught a little off guard, I went with the flow and just accepted that I was getting a little older, all the while telling myself that it was okay.

As the next few years went by, though, I noticed a little ache here, an uncomfortable feeling there when I sat a certain way, and a few other unexpected indicators that I was becoming older, still. And at this point, now, I have wrapped my head around the fact that with every second I am aging, and I’m sure that many of you have reached that point (or will reach it someday…just give it a little time).

Did I appreciate the aging process early on? No. As a matter of fact, I’m still not that keen on it. But I do appreciate the fact that I am still here, and that, with time and experience, I am becoming wiser and more seasoned. And, now that I think about it, that suits me just fine 🙂 #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #140

a2976071432_10Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that time will always tell. I have heard the statement “time will always tell” numerous times throughout my life, and I am guessing that it is a statement that is familiar to you all as well. Whenever we make decisions and find ourselves wondering what is going to happen, someone tells us that time will tell. Whenever a certain someone or something comes across our minds and we begin to wonder whether this or that will happen, we can hear the statement “time will tell” reverberating inside of us. And on and on it goes.

In my experience I have learned that that answer is always true – time will always tell. The challenge, though, is that we human beings have a natural tendency to not allow the certainty of time revealing things to be enough. We want to know what is going to happen, and we want to know it right now. And I can definitely understand that.

However, even though we would rather have instant gratification when it concerns knowing what will happen in the future, the waiting period between the here and now and discovering what time is going to tell us is usually a necessary one, as there is typically a lot of growing and character building that needs to take place within us prior to time making the big reveal. So, when we encounter those moments when we find it hard to accept the fact that time will tell, let’s remember that waiting for that big reveal will yield a new us. Now that’s not too shabby of an exchange for our time, is it? #lovebythedrop