Today’s Gem of Insight #30

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Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that it’s important to be entirely present in any given moment. Like most of us, I have experienced my fair share of moments when I have not completely given my attention to whatever or whomever I was interacting with at the moment. That is certainly something of which I am not proud. And though I, as well as many of you I would guess, have had the best of intentions and have not ever wanted to fail to extend to something or someone the attention that it or they deserve, the truth of the matter is that even innocent attempts at multitasking or moments of misguided focus can make it impossible to remain fully present in any given moment.

Now, I know that our lives are saturated with fascinating and often helpful technology that makes it possible for us to be constantly connected to the people in our lives and the ventures that occupy our schedules. And, to a certain extent, that level of connectivity can be periodically necessary. However, regardless of the number of demands that are on our lives and the amount of responsibility that we have, it is essential that we recognize those moments in which we need to set our ability to multitask and daydream to the side and instead focus on the task or person seeking our attention in the present moment. Is it easier said than done? Yes. But is it worth the effort? Absolutely. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Gratitude #303

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Today I am thankful for the fact that I have standards and that I have finally reached a point in life at which I am no longer willing to compromise them in negative ways. In the past, I have, as I am sure that many of us have, relaxed my standards to a point for various reasons – maybe I wanted affection, consideration, or simply to “fit in.”

Thankfully, none of those less than stellar compromises have yielded results that have been so detrimental that I have not been able to recover or get myself back on track. There certainly have been some challenges, but I have been very blessed in that I have been spared having to experience circumstances that were more negative and more devastating.

Successfully navigating those experiences has left me with some valuable knowledge – when I compromise my standards in negative ways, even if I have the best of intentions, I effectively convey to others and to myself that I do not know my own worth and that I am alright with settling for less than what I deserve. And I am not okay with that. Do I have the perfect system in place to ensure that I do not compromise my standards? No. But I do have a much better grip on the situation, and that is definitely something to be thankful for. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Gratitude #278

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Today I am thankful for willpower, which, to me, goes hand in hand with self discipline (you can read more about my thoughts on self discipline here). The dictionary defines “willpower” as “control deliberately exerted to do something or to restrain one’s own impulses.” And, unfortunately, it seems as though we, as members of a society that has access to a level of abundance that is greater than any other society that has come before it, exhibit less and less willpower as time continues advancing. We say the first thing that comes to mind in many situations without taking the time to think before opening our mouths, or opting instead to hold our tongue and not say anything at all. We give in to urges to do the very things that we know, believe, and say that we should not do. We engage in activities to excess rather than limiting ourselves, even when we know that those limitations are for the best. These are all examples of how we neglect to tap into the willpower that we have.

Notice that I said “we.” No, that was not a mistake. And, no, I was not trying to feign humility. I said “we” because I have certainly had my moments when I have exhibited this sort of behavior as well. The interesting thing about my experiences with this, though, is that I used to tell myself that my tapping into my willpower in most of the areas of my life on a regular basis made up for the instances when I neglected to do so. Foolishly, I was under the impression that everything was a wash because in my mind the moments when I made use of my willpower, in effect, cancelled out the moments when I did not. Man, what was I thinking?

Thankfully, I know better than that now. And in learning that, I have also come to realize how integral tapping into your willpower is. It truly is one of those acts that the more that you do it, the greater your tendency to naturally do so in the future – essentially, the more that you exhibit this type of behavior, the more it effectively turns into your default behavior, which means that eventually you will not have to think about doing it as much because your mind and body will have already become conditioned to behave in that way.

When I finally developed an understanding of that it was a revolutionizing experience. Now, I have a substantially better record of tapping into my willpower and allowing that act to help govern my behavior, though, on occasion, it can still be a challenge to do so, especially when it concerns maintaining a healthy diet and exercise regimen. But like I said, the more that I do it, the more natural it will become. And I do not know about you, but that might be just the motivation that I need. #lovebythedrop