Today’s Gem of Insight #144

good-people-bannerToday’s insight journey led me to the idea that good people do not finish last. So often we hear the phrase “good guys finish last,” or some variation thereof, and unfortunately many of us have come to accept that as truth.

Yet, good people who do good things inject this world with positivity each and every time that they share that goodness with others. And as they consistently spread that goodness they are in fact inviting more of the same into their lives, which in turn causes them to experience more peace and a reduction in stress levels, as well as causes them to live lives that are of greater quality over all than their counterparts.

So, in reality, good people definitely do not finish last. On the contrary, they are at the head of the class. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #70


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that it’s important that we do not lead on those with whom we do not truly want to be. Many of us are very engaging individuals who enjoy getting to know and spending time with people. We enjoy the way that we feel when we have positive encounters with others and we take pleasure from establishing emotional connections with people. And there is nothing wrong with that.

However, we must be careful and ensure that we do not conduct our lives and interactions in such as way as to cause someone else to receive the impression that we want more from the situation than we really do. Now, certainly we cannot control the perspectives that others have; that is simply beyond the scope of that for which we could realistically be held responsible. Yet, we can control the things that we say and do, something that is entirely within the realm of our responsibilities.

For example, let’s say that you know someone in whom you may or may not be interested, and you know that you either are not interested in being in a serious relationship (with that person, or maybe even with anyone) or you are simply not ready to be in a serious relationship with that person (or anyone for that matter), then do not behave in such a way that will give that person the impression that you are interested in being in that serious relationship with them and that you are ready to be in that serious relationship with them. Or, let’s say that you know that for some reason you are not in a position to start that business with your friend, you no longer have any interest in buying that house with your spouse, or you really do not have the requisite time available to be the coach of your daughter’s basketball team, then make your position clear to those who need to be made aware of it and then move on from there. Do not lead them on.

Leading people on is not only wrong and disrespectful, but it completely goes against the idea of fostering authentic relationships. And as we have come to know, if we lack authentic relationships the life that we live will never be as good as it was intended to be. And since we are only blessed with one life, we might as well go ahead and do what we need to do to handle things the right way now rather than wait until later and then with tears in our eyes scramble to try to pick up the pieces.

And let’s face it, being led on hurts. And my guess is that when we really and honestly take time to think about it, leading people on does not feel all that great either. So, let’s avoid leading people on all together and instead spend that effort on enjoying the wonderful relationships that result from our investment of love care. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #29


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that not everything needs to be fixed by us. Some of us have such helpful and efficient natures that we feel compelled to fix every problem that comes across our path, even those to which others only allude. We are natural “fixers.” And there is nothing wrong with that.

The problem arises, though, when we lose sight of our ability to discern which problems require our attention and which ones do not. Yes, I include myself when speaking of this, as I have been guilty of this at times too. We overload ourselves with our problems, our loved ones’ problems, and even those of strangers until we become so stressed out and overwhelmed that we severely reduce our ability to be effective in any area of our lives.

However, the good thing about realizing that a behavior that we exhibit needs some adjusting is that that realization presents us with the opportunity to actually do something about it. So, the next time that we are faced with a problem or we merely catch wind of one, it may be beneficial to take some time to evaluate whether or not the problem is one that truly requires our attention before setting those helpful wheels in motion. We just might save ourselves some unnecessary stress and anxiety. Now, that’s not a bad exchange for a few moments of thoughtful evaluation. #lovebythedrop