Today’s Gem of Insight #103

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Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that we cannot truthfully blame others when we fail to speak up for ourselves. I do not know about you, but there have been many occasions in my life when others have asked my opinion on something, have asked me if I had a preference regarding something, or have asked me what I wanted to do or where I wanted to go. And what did I do? More often than not I either said what I thought would be pleasing to the person who was asking me the question, or I gave deference to that person and opted not to share my opinion, preference, or suggestion for what I would like to do or where I would like to go.

However, as I have matured and gotten older I have come to realize that by not speaking up for myself I was doing myself a disservice. There I was with opportunities to share my opinions, convey my preferences, or state what I wanted to do or where I wanted to go, and I squandered those opportunities. And then I had the nerve to become frustrated with the outcome when it was contrary to what I thought, wanted, or desired. Can you believe that?

What I failed to consider during those moments was the fact that by relinquishing the opportunity to voice my opinion, preference, or desire, I was also relinquishing my right to be frustrated about the outcome. Since the dawning of that realization I have spoken up more, though I am still a work in progress. And hopefully what I am sharing here will remind all of us to take proper advantage of the opportunities that we are afforded to share our opinions, preferences, and desires with others, because if we do not take advantage of those opportunities there will be no one to blame but ourselves. #lovebythedrop

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Today’s Gem of Insight #99

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Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that drama is overrated. It seems as though just about everywhere that we turn we run into drama-filled situations and issues – on television via “reality” shows, in our families, and, for some of us, in our workplace. Drama is certainly interesting, and whenever drama surfaces there exists a virtual guarantee that the day (or evening) will not be boring. But what is all of that drama doing to the individuals whose lives it touches?

Drama, though it may liven up life and fill our days and evenings with spontaneity, is at its core focused on bringing destruction to our lives and to us. It feeds off of the negative feelings and emotions that we experience, and simply serves to reproduce more of the same. It multiplies the level of stress that we experience and it robs us of peace, joy, happiness, and contentment. And if we are not careful, drama will invite misery to visit, and misery is the type of houseguest that is never willing to leave.

I know that this may sound a little tongue-in-cheek, but please know that I say what I say because I truly desire the best for everyone. A life filled with drama may be exciting for a little while, but in time that excitement wears off and we do not realize the heavy and extensive toll that drama takes on our lives until we wake up one day having forgotten who we are and why we are here. So, I encourage all of us to do our best to minimize the amount of drama that we allow in our lives, knowing that we will thank ourselves for it both now and later. #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #95

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Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that chivalry is not dead, it simply has been widely abandoned. I have heard numerous women laugh and shake their heads as if to demonstrate their utter disbelief when anyone has mentioned chivalry. They laugh because chivalry has become so far removed from our society that many of them have never experienced it. Yes, that’s right. Never. For some reason many individuals have laid it down as though it were some outdated pair of shoes and replaced it with nonchalance and indifference.

However, there is a remnant of mature men who have committed themselves to keeping chivalry alive. They may be few and far between, but the important thing is that they exist. And unfortunately because so many individuals have discarded chivalry, those men who do exhibit chivalry are often overlooked and under appreciated. So, I encourage each and every one of us ladies to honor and appreciate the men in our lives who embrace and exhibit a chivalrous lifestyle. May we never forget to give honor when honor is due. #lovebythedrop