Today’s Gem of Insight #56


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that just because something is hard to do does not automatically mean that we should not do it. Take as a prime example the act of walking in stilettos. I think that it is safe to conclude that the majority of us view walking in stilettos as a challenging task, at least at first. If you think about it, there really isn’t anything natural about hoisting an unstated number of pounds of body weight onto two tall and thin toothpicks followed by attempts to maneuver while balancing on said toothpicks. No. There’s nothing natural about that at all.

However, the fact that it is entirely unnatural to subject oneself to the dangerous task of walking in stilettos does not dissuade our eyes from immediately pinpointing stilettos when we go to a store, picking up and trying on those stilettos, and then happily paying for and transporting home said stilettos while full aware of the likely battle that we are in for when we make the choice to finally don those beautiful temptresses.

Why do we do it? We do it because they are pretty, they make us feel special, and for some of us, the added height that they supply is priceless. And because we know how wearing them and walking in them makes us feel, we put up with the challenges that we encounter as we press on toward our goal of being able to walk in stilettos while looking natural and sophisticated, and avoiding any and every possible chance to fall and injure ourselves.

Now, if we are willing go through all of that in order to wear some tall, and let’s admit it, rather dangerous shoes, then why not apply that same concept to other situations in our lives? The truth of the matter is that at its core this concept is applicable to just about any situation to which we subject ourselves that is challenging for the purpose of achieving some end result that brings us pleasure and gives us a sense of accomplishment. We consider the challenge itself, the desired end result, and our motivation, and then we move forward with our quest. It is as simple as that. And if it works with stilettos, imagine what it will do when applied to obtaining a new job or promotion, buying a house, or even having children. Now that is a revolutionary thought. #lovebythedrop


Today’s Gem of Insight #55


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that though appearance is important it should never be the foundation of our identity. Looking good is important for many reasons, one of which is that when we look good we tend to feel better about ourselves and the possibilities that life holds for us.

However, a challenge comes into play when we find our identity in the way that we look, as opposed to in who we are as a person. The way that we look is ever-changing – we wear different clothing from day to day, we age from second to second, and at times parts of our body may even experience minute changes due to climate, weather, or other miscellaneous culprits.

The point is that if we base our identity in something that is ever-changing and over which we have only limited control, such as the way that we look, our sense of false-security will fling our emotions around as though they were on a roller coaster every time that our looks change in even the most minute ways.

This is one of the main reasons why we were never intended to be so focused on physical appearance. Sure, as I previously mentioned, one’s appearance is important, but there are so many limitations and an unstable nature associated with our looks, which causes our appearance to be too fickle of an ideal from which to derive our identity. After all, we will still be who we truly are no matter what we look like. So, why not base our identity on something that is lasting and stable rather than something that is fleeting and undependable? #lovebythedrop

Today’s Gem of Insight #42


Today’s insight journey led me to the idea that appearances can be deceiving. We have all come across people who look good and seem to have it all together, entrees on menus with descriptions that make them sound as though they are exquisite delectables, and even cars that at first glance appear to have been manufactured just for us. We have encountered and consisted these treasures with anticipation and expectation only to finally spend time with them and discover that they are nothing like what we originally perceived.

And that’s not even the kicker though. The kicker is that had we taken the time to ask some pertinent questions, do a more extensive preliminary evaluation, and try to gain a better understanding of those treasures while setting our emotions to the side before investing in them, we would have spared ourselves the unnecessary disappointment and anguish that we ultimately experienced.

So, the moral of the story my dears is that not everything that looks good is good, and not everything or everyone should be taken at face value. Sometimes we need to probe deeper and even ask some tough questions in order to determine if something or someone is deserving of the investment of our time, emotions, and life. After all, each one of us is priceless, and not everything and everyone enters your life with your priceless nature in mind. #lovebythedrop