Today I am thankful for good communication. Communication is one of those things that people typically do not appreciate until it’s gone. And it’s interesting that many people say that communication is one of the most important ingredients for good relationships and successful ventures, but ironically very few people actually communicate well.
Many of us are so caught up with ourselves – what we want, need, and think – that when others are talking to us we are often thinking of what to say, what we need to do, what we should have told someone, instead of actually listening to the person who is speaking to us. “Well, talking to people is communicating, right?” is what you might be thinking. Talking is expressing oneself, but talking without truly listening to the other person is not communicating, it’s just talking. And talking does not require two or more people, but communication does.
Have you ever been in the middle of pouring your heart out to someone only to pause and realize that the person to whom you were speaking was not even paying attention to you because they were off in their own world, far away from the reality of your heartfelt expression of whatever was concerning you at that moment? And how did it make you feel? Probably pretty hurt, right? And how do you think you would have felt had that person been actively listening to you and responding to your expression of concern? Much better, right?
That, my friends, is what communication is meant to provide us with – that sense of being heard, accepted and understood; the realization that those moments are completely reserved for the speaker to open up and share what is on their heart to share, and then in return receive the attention of a listening ear and the extension of a compassionate heart. That, my dears, is communication at its best. #lovebythedrop