Today I am thankful for the ability to say “no”. For the longest time I found it hard to say “no” to people, especially if what they were asking was reasonable and not something that was ethically or morally wrong. I guess it boiled down to the fact that I used to always want to make everyone happy, I wanted to please everyone. And in my mind I thought that by telling people “no,” even when it was in my best interest to do so, I was letting them down, thus displeasing them.
Thankfully, however, I have outgrown that mindset. I now know that not only is it okay for me to tell people “no,” but sometimes that is absolutely what I need to do. I cannot do it all, and I was not created to do it all. And when I overextend myself I find that I lose my sense of peace and I start to feel frustrated, stressed, and overwhelmed.
It’s absolutely essential for us as human beings to recognize the need to develop boundaries, to take the time to develop boundaries, and to enforce those boundaries. And, yes, this can be hard to do, but it is necessary. I am happier now than I have been in a long time, and I owe that in part to my decision to start saying “no” to people when I need to. It’s amazing how liberating the word “no” can be. #lovebythedrop