Today I am thankful for failure. If anyone had asked me even five years ago whether I associated any positive aspects with the idea of failure, I probably would not have answered that question in the affirmative beyond stating that failure would either compel someone to work harder or give up. But now I would be more inclined to answer that question in the affirmative because I am now in a position to be able to recognize and appreciate the multiple facets of failure.
Sure, not succeeding at something is not an enjoyable feeling. But sometimes not succeeding is the best outcome that you could have obtained from certain situations because the thing that you were hoping to succeed at was not something that was good for you. It took becoming an adult and experiencing some emotional traumas for me to finally arrive at that conclusion, and boy were my eyes opened when I did.
Was I scared at times when I failed at something or a situation did not turn out the way that I wanted it to? Yes. Was I upset because things did not turn out the way that I wanted them to? Yes. Did I attempt to convince myself that I was still correct in wanting whatever it was that I wanted despite the fact that I knew deep down inside on certain occasions that what I wanted was not good for me? Yes. And in reality I think that most of us have had moments like that at some time or another.
However, there was one particular moment when a major situation did not turn out the way that I had hoped and thought that it would, and it was devastating. I cried. I prayed. And then I finally started telling God exactly how I felt and what I was thinking. And after that, I asked Him what I needed to learn from the situation. And what He revealed to me was the concept that I am sharing with you. When we “fail” at something it does not necessarily mean that we have done something wrong, that someone else was out to get us, or that someone else was better at something than we were. Sometimes, “failing” at something means that whatever that something was, big or small, it was not something that was right for us. Once I realized this and truly allowed myself to grasp the reality of this concept I experienced a sense of freedom that I had not experienced before.
Now, some of you may think that this is a rather simple concept and that it’s not really a big deal. And for some people that may be the case. But for me it was life changing. And because of this experience I have come to embrace failure in a more positive way, knowing that there is always something to learn, that some of the failures that I experience may not stem directly from anything that I have done, and that they do not necessarily reflect upon my character. Who knew that failure could be so liberating? #lovebythedrop